Of Communication, Miscommunication and Un-communication

"Think like a wise man, but communicate in the language of the people"
- William Butler Yeats

Hmmm, well ... the quote doesn't exactly describe what I am thinking. But heck, I am thinking about communication and miscommunication and the misunderstanding from communication and miscommunication.
So I guess that fits after all. In some sense.

I know I ranted about this a long time ago. And I know it wasn't exactly a short rant.
But see. I have problems communicating with people. I think that people are psychic. Mind-reader. They know what I want to say, when I just utter two words.
"I want ... I need ... I think ... I should ... I probably ... I erm ..." and they know what I am thinking.
Or at least what I want to say.
That's what I think.

See. The problem with human is that - and you probably already learn this in your Public Speaking 101 - they listen to what they WANT to listen. Not the message. But what they already have in their mind.
They see something. Interpret it. Take it as message sent. And then, they send out THEIR message.

Problem?
That can be VERY frustrating to other people.
Because the receiver not only get the wrong message, they pass out the wrong message!

And when things get serious, that is called framing. Scandalizing. Name-calling. Whatever.

So, what happens next?
When the miscommunication has happened?
Do you try to communicate the right message?

Most people do. But now, we are talking about me.
And that's another flaw of mine, in my otherwise flawless characteristic (I think).
Knowing there has been miscommunication, and lazy to do something about it.
Un-communication.
That's what I call it.

What trouble can it brings?
It brings you MORE miscommunication, surface relationship and a lot of stupid situations.

BUT. See. That's what MOST people would think. Again, slight reminder. This is me we are talking about. So, what can it bring? Un-communication.
It brings you true friends. True listener. Believer. Less hassle in dealing with people that you may not really like. A chance to break off from communicating too much with people you don't like. And perhaps some pride in knowing that the other person misunderstood you, and not otherwise.

So. Communication. Miscommunication. Un-communication. Is it all that bad?
To the proud lion of August. Not exactly.
Then again. I wouldn't exactly ask you to purposely do it. Trust me. It isn't all that good. And see, I admitted that it is a flaw of mine. Which means, I find it something that is not exactly right.
Ok. Fine.
I find it not right. Drop the "exactly". It is outright wrong.
You shouldn't try to let other people misunderstand you. Try your best to communicate properly with people. And stop assuming other people are mind-reader.
Be specific. Clear. And speak out honestly.

Gosh. Communicating with people can be so difficult.
It half made me sincerely wish that people are mind-reader.
The other half doesn't want me to know what kind of dirty thoughts are on other people's mind.